Past failures can leave so many of us bitter, resentful, and scared of the future.
Failure is something that is inevitable in life whether we accept it or not, yet, its also one of the most difficult things to acknowledge or swallow. For most of us, failure can mean a dent in our self-worth because of the perceived stigma that goes with it.
Many successful people living and dead have over the years acknowledged their success to taking a risk and failing multiple times. Some might experience more failures in life while others just a few but the remarkable thing about successful people is their ability to dust themselves off, and learn from their failure.
To help us change our perspective about failure, how to get past over it, and learn from it, let’s take a look at some tips to help us get past our failure.
Tips to Help you Overcome Failures
· Understand that failure is a necessary part of Success.
Failure is a direct indication that you are doing something worthwhile in life, it’s a sign that you are pushing beyond your boundaries and expanding your horizon. Whenever you feel like beating yourself up for failing, always remember that if it was easy, a lot of people would have accomplished what you tried. Recognize that there’s a lesson to be learned from your failure, change your perspective and embrace the moment, savor the experience, and praise yourself for being audacious enough to have tried. Always take out the lessons, learn from it and move on.
· Don’t dwell on past failures.
Stop beating yourself up over the past, the world will do its job to beat you up, so why add to it. Dwelling on the past is not only disempowering, but it’s also a total waste of time. Its good to reflect on the past, the only problem is trying to relive the past and beat yourself up over things you did when you only had limited information. The reason why you might feel angry in the present is because you are wiser and smarter. So stop beating yourself up over things you did when you had little information.
Learn from your mistakes, and past failures then move on. You are never your mistake, you only made one. And if its any consolation, remember that everyone makes mistakes. Pat yourself on the back, learn and move on.
Remember also that you are a different person now, and your past doesn’t define you.
· Your failure is an opportunity for you to plot your next move.
Since mistakes are lessons, won’t it be a nice idea to learn as much as you can from your past failures and plot your next move?
Like we’ve already established, failures are a necessary part of success, they are what open our eyes to better opportunities. Whenever you make a mistake or fail at something, take out time to dissect why you failed, what factors contributed to your failure, learn from it, reflect on it, and improve on whatever you are doing or just move on with your life. Never beat yourself up.
· Take Responsibility
It is quite easy to blame others for our failures because it’s the safest way to protect our ego. Blame, on the other hand, limits our ability to learn the different sides to why we fail. The highest sign of maturity in life is the ability to take responsibility for the outcome of your life.
Whenever you make a mistake or fail at anything, instead of laying blame on others, take responsibility for the outcome, learn from it, and move on with your life. recognize that failure is part of life and no one is exempted. Your failures or past failures can’t determine your future.
· Accept Where you are
Are you in denial of where you are in your life versus where you want to be? It is quite easy for us humans to live in denial about our present situation or stage in life. Denial of our failures or situation only leads to resentment and hostility. It’s important to accept where you are in life, accept your situation, and accept the outcome of things. Learn from it, forgive yourself, and move on with life. take full responsibility for your life and develop a strategy for the future.
· Be Grateful for Life and your Circumstance
Be grateful for the opportunities you have and for the opportunities coming your way. The reason why you failed is that you are utilizing the opportunities that are coming your way, so be grateful, pray for more opportunities, and never be scared to take on more opportunities.
Failure is only failure when you give up and never try again. Everyone in life will definitely encounter failure in life. So why beat yourself up, why worry about making mistakes, what’s the point of living your life looking over your shoulders because of past failures.
Accept the fact that everyone fails in life, learn from it, and move on with your life.
In the words of Maya Angelou:
“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it. I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better”.