Why are so many people unsuccessful in life?
It is said that just one percent of the world’s population controls the wealth of the world. Why is this so?
Does it mean that 1 percent of the world’s population is smarter that the remaining 99%?
Of course not. And, although success is subjective, there are so many reasons why most of us aren’t as successful as we would like to be.
In this post, we are going to look at some of the reasons why most of us are lacking behind when it comes to things we desire in life.
- Negative Attitude.
Attitude is everything thing in life. You can never have a negative attitude and expect to reap positive outcomes just like you can’t plant corn and expert beans.
People who have a negative attitude will always find fault in everything; they know more ways things will go wrong. That is why they are unsuccessful. This attitude prevents them from taking up opportunities because they are scared and insecure. If you have the tendency to be critical of everything, it’s time to change that habit if you wish to be successful in life. understand that nothing is perfect in life, and nothing will ever be. Stop being critical and start enjoying life. take chances, and step out of your comfort zone.
- Indecision – waiting too long to make a decision
Indecisions can be attributed to a lack of direction or clarity. A lot of failures in our society today can be attributed to a lack of decision or indecision. Most experts fall into this trap. They try to rationalize or get 100% of their data before they attempt anything worthwhile, they question, scrutinize and over scrutinize until an opportunity passes them by. For most people, they never learn from their mistakes, that’s why they are unsuccessful.
According to General Collins Powell, you only need 40 percent to 70 percent of the information to make a decision. You have to trust your guts and go with the information you have at hand. If you fail, you’ll learn, and you’ll also improve on your decision-making muscles. Decision making is a skill, so build yours.
- Trying to do too many things.
So many people have millions of great ideas but never get to start or execute any of them. They get involved in everyone else’s business and hope that someday the desired breakthrough will come.
One of the major pitfalls for most unsuccessful people is the compulsive urge to engage in so many activities at a time. They take on so many tasks, enter into new ventures without finishing existing ones. And in the end, they experience burn out or are unmotivated. So many of us fall into this trap of trying to do so many things at once. In most cases, this is as a result of not being clear on what’s important, or we simply don’t understand our values.
Try to do just one thing at a time if you truly desire to be successful. Doing so many things at once will only make you more confused, frustrated, resentful, and ultimately, a failure.
According to Jim Collins the author of good to great, you have to pick one thing you’re passionate about and do it better than everyone else.
Do one thing, and do it well. That’s the key to success.
- Trying to control everything.
You cannot control every outcome in your life, you can never stop people from hating you, and you can never make everyone like you. Life is full of uncertainties, and it’s these uncertainties that make it worth living and fun.
If you truly want to achieve great things in life, let go of the popular belief that everything should be under your control, life will definitely throw its blows at you. Accept it, learn from it and move on. Don’t beat yourself up.
Try to allocate your time and resources to where you can make a difference, and let go of the belief to control everything. Delegate the unimportant things or things that are too hard for you. This way, you get more time to engage in things that truly matter.
- Not taking a risk.
Unsuccessful people hate taking risks.
There’s nothing in this life that is without risk, yet most of us live our lives like we are going to live forever. We avoid challenges, we avoid confrontations, we detest trying out the unknown because of the uncertainty involved.
Denzel Washington once said that “to have something you never had; you have to do something you never did”.
Building a brand, a business, or life you deserve requires work, it requires sacrifice, and importantly it requires taking a risk. If you never step out of your comfort zone, you’ll never know what’s on the other side. You’ll only be a wishful thinker and ultimately a hater to people pushing their boundaries.
What’s the worst that can happen when you try?
Don’t wait until you’re old to realize you should have taken that first step.
Procrastination has a direct correlation with laziness, and its a reason why most of us are unsuccessful in life.
Laziness can be attributed to either being unmotivated or not having worthwhile values. A lot of us desire success, we desire the good things in life. Yet, we often find ourselves being too lazy to go after what we want, we perceive it as too much work. We either cry out that there’s no enough time or some miracle should just happen.
Slacking off is a habit most people have, and it’s the number one reason we aren’t making as much progress in life, we are too scared to take on opportunities, and we complain things aren’t fair. Success requires work, dedication, and taking on opportunities as they appear. Stop being intimidated, and start acting.
- Failing to show up.
According to Grant Cardon the founder of Cardone Capital, a $750 million real estate empire, not showing up is one of the reasons many people are unsuccessful. Showing up requires you to consistently put yourself out there. Display your skills, broadcast it, be persistent, and have faith that everything will work out fine. You’ll never conquer your fears if you never try, or move towards the direction of your dream. Most of us desire success in life yet, we allow fear of criticism, or what people will say or think about us to deter us from going after what we love.
If you don’t go after what you want in life, you become stagnant, unmotivated, resentful of people succeeding, and end up spiral downwards.
- Trying to please everyone.
There’s a popular quote that goes:
“if you want to make everyone happy, don’t be a leader. Sell ice cream”.
Success in life will sometimes require you to take on decisions that are uncomfortable.
“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” ~ Bill Cosby.
Stop trying to please everyone, stop trying to make everyone happy. One of the major reasons why a lot of us don’t actually go after what we want is because of the perceived judgment. We fear people will hate us, or they’ll say all types of evil things against us and the funny thing in life is that, no matter what you do or don’t do, people must hate you. So, you might as well be successful and be hated. I don’t know who hates has paid or subtracted money from their account. Do you?